I have to cover all household expenses, including their personal items, yet they haven't contributed a single penny despite staying at my house for two months.
My family has three siblings, primarily earning a living by selling goods at a school. During the summer, I am essentially unemployed, yet now I have to support three more people: a male cousin, a female cousin, and an aunt. I have to cover every expense in the household, even their personal belongings; they have never spent a dime despite living in my house for the past two months. To be honest, my family faced a major crisis that resulted in a large debt. My siblings and I have struggled to pay off the debt and cover living costs, which was already overwhelming, and now we have to shelter three more people. Thinking about the savings I set aside for summer spending depleting so quickly makes me feel heartbroken.
I have to wake up at 3 a.m. to earn money, while my cousin just wanders around and still makes over 10 million VND a month. I asked him to contribute to the family expenses, but he ignored me. Moreover, the two cousins do not help with any housework; they wake up, eat, surf the web, sleep until the afternoon, and then go out. Even when I ask for help, they still won't do it.
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LuxuryWell, I don't see you mentioning the reason why you have to support them. They are adults who refuse to work, so just let them go, why do you have to care for them?
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nguyen.thyvan320What power is forcing you to take care of them?
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ManhhungrbStop cooking. Eat out, only come home to sleep, and when you wake up, go out for fun or go to work.
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Tsui FeiIt's very hard to understand why you have to shoulder those burdens; what is the story behind it? One needs to understand that story to offer a solution for you.
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SayKicking those 3 relatives out to the street solves the problem; it's not that hard.
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Succulent 🌷“but his mother and sister are still at my house, and I have to take care of them even though it's not my responsibility”
Why do people let others stay in their house like that? If a cousin comes to visit, I'll take care of everything, but I'll ask when they are leaving and even buy the ticket for them. If they stay longer, I'll tell them to contribute significantly every month, or I'll cover food for the first week, then ask them to buy ingredients for me to cook, and the week after that, tell them to buy and cook themselves. An aunt or anyone can stay for a week or a month, but no one should be so thick-skinned to stay that long. A well-off family... Read more
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